We love to encourage our clients to follow our Three-Cs towards Strengths performance:
- Connect with Strengths
- Communicate with Strengths
- Create with Strengths
One of the most important aspects of Creating with Strengths is understanding how yours interact with those closest to you. Your profile doesn’t live in isolation and will bump into the Strengths of those that you work with.
Importantly, the people closest to you will experience your Strengths – at their best and when you’re not exactly shining – acutely.
Those of us who can appreciate the Strengths of those we love are able to anticipate how their partner will show up at home.
Here’s an example we like to share:
Mandy – has Empathy at number 6 on her profile. She can really connect with people on an emotional level, she can walk a mile in their shoes.
Garreth – has Empathy at number 34 on his profile. He won’t walk the emotional journey with someone, because he can’t project their experiences onto his.
For us in our relationship this has been so influential. Rather than expecting our partner to show up with the same emotional response, we know that they will experience Empathy in a very different way.
What does this mean?
It means we don’t disappoint each other. We don’t project our response onto them, so we can appreciate how they will show up, how they will support the family, and we understand that their best self will not manifest in the same way as the other’s.
Is one way right and the other wrong?
Absolutely not. But a more helpful way of working with this information is to say that Garreth’s response will be better for certain situations, and that he may need support from Mandy’s Strengths in others.
Knowing how we show up means we know how to aim each other’s Strengths, and how to use our Strengths to fill in the other’s gaps.
If you know what your Strengths uniquely bring to a situation, and you know what you need from your partner to bolster your Strengths, then you can maximise your teamwork in daily life.
The deeper we can go in understanding and appreciating each other’s Strengths in every relationship, the more we can help each other show up at our best.
Imagine this:
- At work – with your immediate teammates
- At home – with your romantic partner and family
If we can take our understanding of Strengths and use it to enhance our partnership, imagine what it could do for you?
To find out more, and to start the process of exploring your own, and your team or partner’s Strengths, reach out to us at hello@mandyherold.com or garreth.ewing@2blimitless.com. We can’t wait to hear from you.
