In a world where worst-case scenarios often dominate our thoughts, it’s time to flip the script. Instead of fixating on what could go wrong, why not ask, “What’s the best thing that could happen?” This simple question has the potential to transform not just your mindset, but your entire approach to life. It’s more than just optimism; it’s a powerful tool to help you thrive.
Why We Lean Towards Negativity
Humans are predisposed to negativity. It’s a survival instinct—a legacy from our distant ancestors who needed to spot trouble before it ate them. I always tell my clients, “Our genes wouldn’t have lasted this long if our ancestors weren’t so good at detecting threats.” Mandy Herold sums it up perfectly: “It’s your brains job to keep you safe, not make you happy.”
This natural tendency to assume the worst has its benefits. It’s helped us survive as a species. But in today’s modern (and mostly safer) world, it can also hinder us from truly thriving.
How Negativity Bias Impacts Us
This primitive response to potential danger plays out in several ways:
- Worst-case scenarios: Our minds run through all the possible disasters, even when they’re unlikely.
- Difficulty enjoying the moment: Worrying about what might go wrong prevents us from fully embracing the present.
- Reduced spontaneity: Fear of the unknown holds us back from trying new things.
- Risk aversion: Even positive risks—like taking a chance on a new job, relationship, or adventure—feel too dangerous to pursue.
In essence, negativity bias can paralyse us, getting in the way of action. And action is where change happens.
The Silver Lining
Is negativity bias all bad? Not necessarily. It’s important to recognise that your brain’s cautionary instincts can still serve you well.
- Trusting your gut: If something feels off, it might be worth paying attention to.
- Reading the room: Your brain helps you navigate social situations, keeping you safe from potential conflicts or misunderstandings.
But here’s the thing: your brain doesn’t always know the difference between a real threat and a “first-world problem.” That’s where you need to step in and help it out.
Rewiring for Positivity
“What’s the best thing that could happen?” This question can help break the cycle of fear and doubt, nudging you toward taking action instead of staying stuck.
For some lucky individuals, this positive thinking comes naturally. Their internal negative voice is quiet, and they’re able to move forward without hesitation. But for the rest of us, it takes a bit of practice. By consciously asking this question, you’re giving yourself permission to imagine the best possible outcome—and then take steps to make it a reality.
So the next time negativity threatens to hold you back, try this simple shift in perspective. Ask yourself, “What’s the best thing that could happen?” and then act on it. Whether it’s a small decision or a major life change, you might be surprised by the doors that open and the opportunities that arise.
And when you do, let me know what happens. I’d love to hear how this question changes your story.
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